Have you ever recycled a boyfriend? Yes, no, maybe? Or what is it? Recycling a boyfriend is dating them more then once between any given time, or not being able to move on because you always go back to that same ex boyfriend. My friend has done this many times and she ends up getting hurt all over again. It is hard to move on from someone treating you bad over and over and thinking that they're going to change, but guess what?? THEY'RE NOT!! They claim they will but it's programmed into their brains how they're going to act and they won't change. All you have to do is find someone else.
Take a few weeks or months to go out, flirt, mingle, hang out with your girls and watch some favorite movies, go on some walks, do yoga, meditate, go exercise; go do something that you barely had time for when you were with that person. Once you're back on track, go get 'em!
First of all, you can go searching for Mr. Right, they may have been there this whole time (if you're me and are marrying someone you've known since high school) or they could be the next man you bump your cart into at the grocery store.
All my life, until now, I've been searching for love and I'm pretty sure every single woman out there has either found it or is still looking.
Second, you can't settle!! No one should ever settle for something less than what they want o r expect. If you're searching for a soul mate they need to meet all your requirements. Also, don't ever think that a new man in your life can change. Some men need that girl who pushes them to do better and change, either from being a workaholic to an alcholic! Us women change for men all the time. But don't throw this in their face either! Which leads me to the third thing:
ALWAYS be the better man! Not literally, but hypothetically. Don't try and get even with them because their facebook status says "Wow had a crazy insane time last night" because you have no clue what they did or where they went. Instead tell him that you had a great time watching reruns of Sex and the City wearing your Fredricks silky nightgown drinking a glass of wine. Soon enough going out and being with his guy friends will get boring and he'll want to be there with you, half naked of course! But don't let him get off that easy!
Now fourth, the phrase "Sex Sells" may be alright in magazines and t.v. shows but when you're dressing all skanky, you're in your mid thirties and your boobs, belly, butt or all three are hanging out, a man may; no re-phrase, WILL get the wrong impression. If you're going out to the bar with your friends or a clubs with your girlfriends, all guys mostly go there for are either, guy nights out where they want any girl in groping range, or they've had a long day of work and want to unwind and have a beer. Or if you're lucky and it's football season you'll find they finatics there watching the game a scoping out women. Anyways, you never need to up-play the outfit, go casual but sexy. For example, skinny jeans, hot pumps, and an off the shoulder top. Guys love collarbones and want to see them, that outfit screams, I'm not a slut but I am sexy. Or go for a cute dress, mid-thigh, with some cute boots. Don't do the short shorts and ity bity top that may be in your size but should not be wearing it!!
Lastly, get a pen and paper out, sit in a quiet and relaxed room, or to make it comfy grab a bunch of pillows and a blanket and make a relaxation area. Write down everything you want in a man, characteristics, be presise. Make a column for looks. It shouldn't be too long cause if you're that picky about your 6'2, tanned skinned, dark brown hair, blue eyed, 6-pack boyfriend then you've already failed! Make a list of solutions to solve why you think relationships end up ending in your life. Yes be hard on yourself and if you're not then this will not work! Lastly write 3 wishes. These aren't just any ordinary wishes but they need to be in depth. For exampl; I wish that I could find a man who choses me as his first priority other than working out, hanging out with his buddies on the weekend etc. Once all 3 wishes are complete, light a candle. Sit and think of the 3 wishes in your head. Crumble up the piece of paper and burn it until it is ash. Warning: don't burn the house down, we're pretty intelligent women and know how to prevent this so think of options before.
This has helped my friend and I hope it will help many!
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